Sunday, December 13, 2009

How do i convince my 20 years old sister that she doesn't need anti wrinkle treatment and things like that?

she admits she's a bit a victim of images on tv and advertisements, but yet she thinks she's getting old (really really old) and she need pro-age skin treatments to stay beautiful. how do i convince her that it's natural to look like 20years old when you're 20 years old and that she doesn't have to stay 15-lookin till she's 60 just because all the actresses and models do this? please help me, i;m really upset about her obsessions.How do i convince my 20 years old sister that she doesn't need anti wrinkle treatment and things like that?
Here's a great idea that she can't argue with: Many department store makeup counters and pharmacy makeup counters have those free sun damage indicator machines. All you do is bring her to one of them, have the technician do a scan of her face, (make sure she doesnt' wear foundation or suncreen that day) and it will determine with no uncertainty that she doesn't have any wrinkles to speak of. It's no cost and she can take a picture home as proof.


Or she can go to her doctor and ask her what sun damage she has. At this point, it would be sun damage that would be causing any wrinkles and not aging, she should be educated on that part of it. And maybe you can direct her to a site on this very thing to show what real sun damage is.


IF that doesn't work, then she may have obssesive compulsive disorder and needs to speak to a professional about that, because, then, it would be a distortion in body image that she would be suffering from.How do i convince my 20 years old sister that she doesn't need anti wrinkle treatment and things like that?
tell her if she keeps worrying about how she looks the older she will get, why?





because our state of mind is responsible of how old we want to be, tell her to smile more and stop worrying and just live life to the fullest, she will not only look younger but more beautiful
show her the photos and tell her its all a con the creams are no different to your average ponds creams etc. I don't buy them even if they were cheap and not expensive. i only use vitamin E on my face and i haven't any wrinkles or baggy eyes, buy her some of that tell her this is just as good. i tell you i am 52 this summer and i look like 34 no kidding if she uses that and gets a proper bedtime routine and eat the right foods she wont get old so fast, and laugh a lot don't take things to seriously.
LIke other people said, if she stresses about it over and over and worries she will get wrinkles so shes causing it when she gets them, Maybe tell her, when you know she hasnt used it, that her skin looks good and she may thing Oo! thanks lol im not to sure x
tell her if she uses it before her time, it will actually age her more. tell her u saw a report on it on nbc or something... i kno lying is not the way to go, but its an option.
There are some people who will take a ';miracle'; drug that will reduce their age by 10 years. Even when they are only 18.





They want to be an eight year old?
you could put her hand in fire and then shoe would have something to work with...
She sounds obsessive. It will not be easy for you to convince her of this.


BUT, this is a rather healthy obsession- at least for now. Truly- there is nothing wrong with being proactive about skin care. I wish I'd started that young!! :)





What you need to be concerned with of course is 1) she wants to mirror celebrities 2) what's next? She may want to begin cosmetic procedures, surgeries.


When a woman is not comfortable in her own skin and continuously obsesses about it- she makes seriously flawed relationship decisions as well. This could be serious- she cannot find happiness or the self worth she needs with this type of view.


Have you discussed with other family members or her close friends? You may not be able to convince anyone else of how serious this may be- but, it does need to be dealt with (your instincts are right) and the more people whom love her who address this with you- will speak heavier to her.


Regardless of whether you can form a support team or not- you do need to encourage her to seek help. She will not be convinced b/c of her skin care obsession- consider where this comes from....childhood(?) and gently work with her to speak to a therapist. Perhaps ask her to accompany you to a visit...?





Good luck to you!

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